New Jersey Polyamory Therapist Emily Lambert Robins [No Waitlist]
You've built something that works for you: a relationship structure that feels honest, intentional, and true to who you are. But navigating polyamory or ethical non-monogamy isn't always easy, and finding a therapist who truly gets it can feel impossible. I’m Emily Lambert Robins, LCSW, a polyamory-friendly therapist in New Jersey, and my practice is a judgment-free space where your relationship structure is respected and celebrated as we work toward your goals.
Meet your New Jersey polyamory therapy specialist
Emily Lambert Robins
I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 13 years of experience, and couples and sex therapy is truly my specialty, not just a side offering.
As an AASECT-certified sex therapist and Certified Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist, I bring a rare combination of relationship expertise and sex-positive, non-judgmental training to my work.
I welcome individuals and people of all relationship configurations—whether you're married, partnered, dating, or practicing ethical non-monogamy—and I approach every client with genuine curiosity rather than assumptions. I believe it's my job to understand your world, not evaluate it, which means you'll never have to spend our sessions defending your relationship structure.
If you've been searching for a poly-friendly therapist in New Jersey who truly understands the nuances of ENM, I'm here for you.
Credentials: Licensed Clinical Social Worker #44SC05612400 in New Jersey, AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist, Certified Imago Workshop Presenter
Focus areas: Polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, couples therapy, sex therapy, relationship communication, desire and intimacy
My approach to polyamory counseling
My approach to polyamory therapy honors the unique dynamics that arise within ENM without automatically attributing every issue to your relationship style. While I recognize that polyamorous relationships come with their own nuances, I also firmly believe that they’re not inherently more or less challenging than any other relationship—romantic or otherwise.
I draw on Imago Relationship Therapy, advanced training I have received on working with polyamorous couples, and sex therapy tools to help you untangle the specific challenges that come with ENM: communication breakdowns, mismatched expectations, intimacy concerns, and more. What I love about Imago is that it gets to the why behind our patterns: why we react the way we do, why certain things trigger us, and how our past shapes the way we show up in our relationships today. That kind of self-awareness can be genuinely transformative, whether you're in a relationship with one person or several.
I also think good therapy should feel like a collaboration. I work with you, and I regularly invite feedback so our sessions feel genuinely useful and tailored to what you actually need. I'm not here to hand you a script or a one-size-fits-all framework. Every relationship structure is different, and your therapy should reflect that.
And one more thing: while we absolutely do real, meaningful work together, I also believe that therapy doesn't have to feel heavy all the time. Expect warmth, humor, and a whole lot of real talk. Many of my clients are surprised to find that our sessions can actually be fun—and I think that's exactly how it should be.
Common reasons why people seek ethical non-monogamy therapy
You and a partner are considering opening up your relationship, but you're not on the same page about how or whether to do it.
You're struggling with insecurity that feels overwhelming, even though an ENM relationship structure feels aligned with your values.
Communication keeps breaking down between partners, and you can't figure out how to get out of the same cycle of conflict.
You feel like your needs aren't being heard or prioritized within your relationship system.
You're newly polyamorous and trying to figure out boundaries, agreements, and what you actually want.
Your sex life within your ENM structure isn't where you want it to be—desire, frequency, or connection feels off.
You're an individual processing a breakup, transition, or identity question related to your relationship orientation.
You've struggled to find a therapist who doesn't treat polyamory as the problem, and you're tired of feeling like you have to defend your choices before getting to the real work.
How polyamory therapy can help
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If one partner wants to explore ethical non-monogamy and the other isn't sure, our sessions can create a structured, safe space to have that conversation honestly without it turning into a fight. We'll work through fears, desires, and expectations together so you can make decisions that actually feel right for both of you.
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Most relationship struggles come down to communication, and ENM can add extra layers of complexity. Using tools from Imago Relationship Therapy, I'll help you learn how to express your needs, listen more deeply, and talk through conflict in a way that actually brings you closer instead of pushing you apart.
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Like any relationship, ENM relationships thrive on clear, thoughtful agreements. Together, we'll work on identifying what you each need, setting boundaries that feel good rather than restrictive, and building a structure that honors everyone involved. And when life changes—as it always does—we'll revisit and adjust those agreements so they continue to serve your relationship.
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Sometimes, the busyness of managing multiple relationships, work, family, and life means emotional and physical intimacy quietly slips away. Together, we can slow down, check in, and find your way back to the connection, joy, and aliveness that brought you to this relationship style in the first place.
What to expect from the therapy process
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We start with a
free consultation call
Before anything else, we'll hop on a brief call so you can share what's bringing you in, ask any questions, and get a feel for whether we're a good fit. There's no pressure—just an opportunity for us to connect before you commit to anything.
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We dig into what's
actually going on
In our early sessions, we'll explore your relationship structure, what's working, and where the friction is, whether that's communication struggles, intimacy issues, boundary violations, or something else entirely.
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We build skills you
can actually use
Using tools from Imago therapy and sex therapy, I'll help you and your partner(s) develop concrete ways to communicate more clearly, repair conflict faster, and deepen your connection both in and outside of our sessions.
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You leave with more
clarity and confidence
My goal isn't just to help you survive your relationship—it's to help you thrive in it. Over time, my clients leave sessions feeling more grounded, more understood, and more equipped to handle whatever comes up.
FAQs about polyamory therapy
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Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is an umbrella term for any relationship structure in which all parties openly and consensually engage with more than one partner. Polyamory—having multiple romantic relationships simultaneously—is one form of ENM. Others include open relationships, relationship anarchy, and more. Both of these terms and any ENM relationship style are welcome in my practice.
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Both! Whether you're an individual exploring your relationship orientation, a couple navigating ENM together, or a more complex relationship structure looking for support, you're welcome here. I'll work with you to structure our sessions in whatever way makes the most sense for your situation.
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That's completely fine. Many of my clients come to therapy before making any decisions to explore whether ethical non-monogamy is right for them, to understand their feelings, or to have supported conversations with a partner. You don't need to have it all figured out before reaching out.
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Absolutely not. Creating a non-judgmental, shame-free space is one of the things I take most seriously as a therapist. I'm genuinely curious about your experiences and your relationship structure, and I see it as my job to understand your world, not evaluate it. Many of my clients tell me they were surprised by how comfortable and even fun our sessions can be.
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It can be, but it depends on your specific insurance plan. My practice is private pay, which means I don't bill insurance directly. However, I can provide a superbill that you can submit to your insurance company for potential out-of-network reimbursement. Many of my clients are able to get a portion of their sessions covered this way. Feel free to ask about this during our consultation call.