NYC Erectile Dysfunction Therapist Emily Lambert Robins
If you’re struggling with erectile dysfunction, you know how the frustration and shame that can often come along with it. Thankfully, therapy can help. As an experienced sex therapist in New York City, I help men and couples navigate these challenges with compassion, expertise, and practical tools you can start using right away. Here, I’ll tell you more about my approach and how I can help.
Meet your NYC erectile dysfunction therapist
Emily Lambert Robins
Hi, I’m Emily. I'm passionate about helping people reclaim their sexual confidence and connection. My approach is collaborative, authentic, and nonjudgmental—nothing here is too taboo to discuss. Plus, I’m a firm believer that we can approach serious topics with both evidence-based approaches and some levity. Therapy doesn’t have to be boring or scary! Let’s work together to make sex pressure-free and fun again.
Credentials: Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist
Clientele: Adults, couples, polycules
Location: Virtual practice in New York City
Virtual therapy: Yes, available in NY, CT, & NJ
Common reasons why people seek sex therapy for erectile dysfunction
You struggle with performance anxiety that leaves you stuck in your head instead of enjoying the moment
You feel like your body is betraying you or that there’s a disconnect between what you want and what your body is doing
You’ve started avoiding sex because you don’t want to feel like a failure
Your partner has stopped trying to initiate because they think you're not interested anymore
You feel like your masculinity or gender identity is in question when you can’t keep or maintain an erection
Your sexual partners have started to wonder whether they’re the problem
You feel less confident than ever, both in and out of the bedroom
You’ve tried medical treatments, but they don’t seem to get to the root of the problem
You’ve had negative past experiences or been through trauma that impacts your ability to be intimate now
How therapy for erectile dysfunction can help
Address the mind-body connection
Erectile dysfunction often involves complex interactions between physical, psychological, and relational factors. Through therapy, we'll explore how stress, anxiety, depression, or past experiences might play a role, helping you develop a more complete understanding of what's happening.
Break the cycle of performance anxiety
Many men get caught in a cycle where worrying about performance actually creates the problem they're trying to avoid. I'll teach you practical techniques to manage anxiety, stay present during intimacy, and rebuild confidence through exercises that take the pressure off performance and shift the focus to pleasure and connection.
Improve communication & intimacy
Erectile dysfunction affects both the person struggling and their sexual partners, often leading to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and avoidance. We'll work on communication skills that help you and your partner(s) navigate these challenges together, creating deeper intimacy that goes far beyond just sexual functioning.
Integrate medical & psychological treatment
If you're working with medical providers, therapy can complement and enhance your treatment. We'll address the emotional impact of medical interventions, work through any shame or resistance, and help you develop a holistic approach to sexual health and wellness.
FAQs about sex therapy for erectile dysfunction therapy
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Therapy works to address any underlying mental, emotional, or relationship factors that can play a role in erectile dysfunction. The mind-body connection is real!
Sex therapy for erectile dysfunction involves:
Working through shame, performance anxiety, and frustration around ED
Challenging long-standing beliefs and ideas about sex and what it should be that may be keeping you stuck
Exploring dynamics with your sexual partners that may contribute to or exacerbate ED
Discovering what fun, pleasurable, consensual sex looks like for you
Sex therapy for erectile dysfunction doesn’t involve:
Physical touch from the therapist
Medications or other prescribed treatment (though we can collaborate with your other treatment providers as needed)
Judgment or stigma about what you’re going through
If you have more questions about how sex therapy works, feel free to reach out.
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If your partner struggles with erectile dysfunction, one of the most supportive things you can do is approach them with empathy and understanding. Let your partner know you care about them regardless of sexual performance, and create space for open, shame-free conversations about how you’re both feeling.
You can also explore ways of connecting physically and emotionally that don’t center on intercourse, which helps reduce performance pressure and keeps intimacy alive. Couples who are able to expand their definition of sex have much greater satisfaction with their sex lives over the course of their life and relationship.
If your partner is open to it, consider attending therapy sessions together—this can strengthen communication, ease anxiety, and help you navigate ED as a team.
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Therapy starts with gathering more information about your current struggles, your background, and your goals for therapy. Sessions are an open, judgment-free space where we can talk freely about sex and intimacy. We’ll move along at your pace, and our time together will be a mix of education, processing, and learning strategies that you can start using right away.
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I work with individuals, couples, and people practicing polyamory or ethical non-monogamy (ENM). It’s completely up to you if you want to attend therapy solo or involve your partner(s) in the process. I’m happy to provide my professional recommendation once we discuss your situation directly.
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I'm ideal for you if you're looking for a warm, genuine approach that treats you as a whole person, not just a diagnosis. My practice could be a great match if you want to:
Work with someone who uses humor and authenticity in sessions
Address both individual and relationship aspects of sexual challenges
Take a non-pathologizing approach that focuses on your strengths
Work with a seasoned, AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist
Attend sessions online and in the evenings
Work with someone who uses a holistic approach, combining medical treatment with emotional and relational healing
Still not sure if we’re the right fit? Contact me for a free consultation so we can discuss your situation directly.
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Start by reaching out to schedule a free consultation call. We'll discuss your concerns, I'll answer any questions, and we'll determine if we're a good fit. If so, we’ll schedule your first session and begin your therapy journey together.